Since GOD is PRINCIPLE, God does not punish, reward or offer us grace. GOD is the fullness of our DIVINITY always available for us to claim at any moment. Grace is something we offer each other and ourselves based on the PRINCIPLES of BENEVOLENCE and GENEROSITY.
When someone does or says something that we do not like, we might be tempted to be unkind, hurtful or even hateful. However, there is a kinder and better way. In those moments, we can remember our DIVINITY and choose to offer kindness and grace instead of judgment and punishment.
When I am being hard on myself, I can remember to offer myself a huge helping of kindness and grace. Then, it is easier to correct any perceived error I may have made.